It’s never about the money

It's Never About the Money - Sarah Leslie - Episode 116 on the MoneyHeart podcast

It’s Never About The Money

  • Do you worry you don’t have enough money?
  • Wish you had more money?
  • Feel anxious or ill-equipped when it comes to deciding how to budget your money?
  • Does money stress you out?

You can shift your relationship with money.

Money can feel easy. You can have more of it if you want it. And, you can feel easeful and confident in the way you handle money if you are willing to do the internal work to reorient your identity to someone who is prosperous.

We all want to feel safe and secure. It’s part of our inherent nature as humans.
 
So, when you find yourselves in a situation that you don’t like or you don’t feel good about, the primary reason you “stay” is because if you leave, you threaten your own sense of being safe.
 
You may even feel unsafe in that situation, but the “unknown” is usually way more scary.
 
Money controls so much of what people do and don’t do. So often, I hear “I can’t do X” because I don’t have the money. This is deciding your life based on money. Or, “I want X but I can’t afford it.”
 
Again, you know you are meant for something or you need something to help you grow and be a better human and instead of trusting you can acquire the money, in your humanness you default to fear and scarcity – “I can’t afford it. “
 
But, money is just paper so it can’t actually be about the money.
 
This is so important to understand in order to work past your scarcity and belief that there isn’t enough.
 
It always comes back to you trusting that you can “find” the money.
 
And, even more accurately, having Faith that the money is there for you. Believe that God/the universe will provide it for you.
 
These are big concepts that most people don’t learn growing up. I didn’t learn them and I was raised in an amazing home with tons of amazing life opportunities and experiences.
 
So, if you want to have mastery of your life, the task before you is to learn these concepts and learn how to apply them to your life.
 
I help people do this in 6 months working with you 1:1 focusing on creating exactly what you want most in your life.
 
Send me a message saying “I want help mastering these concepts” to get started. 🔥
 

 

Check out this podcast episode to get clear with your thoughts about money so that you can live the life you truly want rather than money dictating your life. I share some helpful strategies on how to view money to help you create wealth and remove blocks keeping you from abundance.

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It's Never About the Money - Sarah Leslie - Episode 116 on the MoneyHeart podcast

Being Humble

Being Humble

Being Humble

This was something I heard a lot growing up. You need to be humble; don’t think too highly of yourself.

It was confusing to me … where is the line, what’s the balance between being humble and not being humble?

If I got excited about something that I was good at or something that happened to me, I was very cautious in the way that I communicated my excitement in fear of being perceived as conceded or arrogant. 

This is a hard thing for an adult to understand, let alone a child.

As an adult, I see this same struggle happening in the folks around me.  A great reluctance to get excited about who they are and what they are up to in the world. 

If something good happens to them like a promotion or an increase in income or something simple like they put an IKEA furniture item together – they are reluctant to be excited about it and really boast in their abilities. 

Why?

I think it tracks back to this teaching in early childhood about the importance of being humble and not being full of oneself or proud as I remember hearing it. Unfortunately, the way it has been taught alongside of many other shame filled teachings, it has left a lot of people fearful and insecure about loving who they are and what they are capable of. Which means a lot of people are struggling and underachieving.

It’s so wide spread and “normal” that most people don’t even know that it’s a “problem” or the thing that is literally keeping them stuck. Or the thing that keeps them from the very things they most want in life. 

So … what’s the solution??

It’s a surprisingly simple solution. 

The difference between being humble and cocky is who you attribute your greatness to. 

If you believe and declare you are great because you have worked hard and diligently and by your own hand you have created amazing things and believe you alone have made them possible, you see yourself as the one to explain your greatness. In essence you are declaring yourself The Creator. This is the person who is seen as arrogant or cocky because they are “full of themselves” in their minds eye. 

When you do this, you limit yourself to only being as great as your mind tells you that you are based on the evidence.  You also look to the world and other people to tell you that you are great and to “approve” of who you are.  You chase after things that the world says make you successful.  And, when you do get that approval often times internally, you don’t really believe them and you doubt whether you can continue to create at that level.  

On the other hand, when you recognize that your greatness comes from a Source greater than yourself and you attribute your greatness to that infinite Source, you are simply declaring the truth.  You are amazing because you are a manifestation of the Creator who decided to create you.  The one who made you infinitely unique and yet infinitely similar to other humans.

That last line in itself is amazing and stretches my own mind still.  Another way to understand it is to say, you are fully human and fully God-like.  Wow!  Again, a concept that defines human understanding and yet is available to all right now. 

Back to being humble …

When you say, “I am amazing” because I was created by a Source greater than myself, the infinite all knowing Source, you are celebrating creation.  You are declaring what is true and enjoying it.   Just as when you say the ocean is amazing and so beautiful, as I do every morning when I gaze out upon it. You are celebrating creation and the one who created it. 

The same goes for YOU and what you are capable of. 

So, declare with boldness who you are and what you are capable of; how you utilize your gifts and talents. Shout it from the roof tops with joy and delight. 

Expand your appreciation for who you are and the heavens open up.  Your mind opens up to even more possibilities of who you are and how powerful you are and what you can achieve. 

Humility is celebrating who you are and attributing your greatness to the Source that created you.  🎉 🎉 🎉  

Never again hesitate to get excited about you and about who you want to become. 🔥🔥🔥

Freely and persistently ENJOY who you are.  The more you do the more you become more of who you want to be and the more you are able to enjoy who you are right now. 💖💖💖

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I used to be tired ALL THE TIME

Tired woman with her head down in her arms

I used to be Tired.  ALL. THE. TIME.

But, not anymore.  

In fact, I’m rarely tired now.  And when I’m tired, I know why I’m tired.  

It’s no longer a mystery. 

Now, I help people get rid of tiredness by taking charge of their lives and living life on their own terms rather than being overwhelmed and stuck. I help people make this radical shift in less than 6 months. Are you ready?

I went to doctor after doctor for years to figure out my “tiredness” which progressed into “exhaustion” in my 30s.  

In my memory, “tired” started in late high school. I would come home from the school day and go straight to bed for like two hours.

Thinking back on it now, it felt normal enough. I mean we were waking up super early to start school at 730am and then there’s all the research that validates I needed more sleep and waking up that early isn’t good for teenagers. And, I’m pretty sure at least some of my friends were doing the same routine. 

But, this pattern showed up sporadically throughout my whole life as I reflect back on it now.  

It wasn’t just an isolated period as the research would have led me to believe. And, it wasn’t “just a phase” that I would grow out of and I definitely wasn’t “just tired” or “in need of more sleep.”  

No, now I can see it was much deeper. Issues permeating the core of who I was and how I saw myself started showing up in various medical symptoms like “tired.”  

I remember other physical symptoms even earlier than that like leg pain in my later elementary years and low-level anxiety that started then as well which could be explained away in multiple ways from “being an adolescent” to “she’s moved around a lot.”  But, really everyone’s got stuff like that we could “blame” it on.  

I don’t buy any of it anymore. In fact, I’m convinced that it’s not any of those things. I’m not saying those aren’t real, I’m just saying those aren’t actually THE problem or the core of what’s wrong. Nor will solving any of those things actually solve the problem.

So, what’s happening?  And, how does it relate to your tiredness right now at this stage in life?

When a person isn’t fully living, I call it being asleep.  

This fits right in to understand, “tired.” Often in the teenage years you start to come into your own and some of us venture out into life, trying to be ourselves and it’s messy. It’s loud, it’s opinionated, it’s colorful and well, oftentimes the world can’t handle it and they try to shut you down. They tell you to be quiet, to stop being too much and to tone it down.  

This is when “tired” starts to roll in.  

It has absolutely nothing to do with how much sleep you did or didn’t get. It has everything to do with the level of acceptance you feel from the people in your world and that you feel towards yourself. 

And, in addition to feeling tired, you also start to develop storylines like, “I’m too much,” “people don’t understand me,” “I can’t be myself around everyone.” These storylines dictate how you show up. You develop “rules” or guidelines for how to show up in the various places of your life, at home, at school, at work and how much you can or can not be yourself.  

Now, you regulate yourself everywhere you go because ultimately we all want to be accepted and understood by some people.

You change or alter who you are or how you would naturally be so that you “fit in.” In a lot of cases, this is done unconsciously and so you don’t even notice how much you are regulating yourself. 

I know for myself, I actually used to think of it as a superpower to be able to accommodate the various “rooms” I spent time in. I called it being a chameleon and prided myself on being able to fit in wherever I went.  

Now looking back I can see another side to it, a deeper truth. In my quest to fit in, I was actually wearing a mask. 

Over the years, I became better and better at this superpower.  

However, at the same time I grew more and more anxious, restless and discontent with life and also more and more tired. 

I had no idea that these two were connected to each other, my ability to fit in anywhere and my “anxiety/tired/restlessness.” Plus, it seemed like most people were anxious in my world – worried about their jobs, their relationships, money so I fit in perfectly to also be worrying about all of those things too.

But, I hated the feeling of restlessness and more and more I didn’t like the feeling of wearing a mask. It got to the point where I didn’t feel like I could take the mask off even when I was alone or with my closest friends. I couldn’t shake the feelings of anxiety, restlessness or tired and instead those just became my “normal” states of being.  

Tired was the worst of them because I loved my energy. I loved being able to accomplish tons of stuff and being able to go go go.  

I turned to the doctors and medical professionals for an answer. Why was I so tired all the time? It didn’t really make sense to me. I used to have so much more energy. And, my life wasn’t more stressful than the next professional juggling all the things. 

Eventually after living out this storyline for a few years, I landed on ‘I must have fibromyalgia’. It was an answer for me. I could rest finally knowing there was an answer so I could shift to treating it.  

The main treatment for fibromyalgia is decreasing stress and taking really good care of yourself. So I started focusing on all the things – yoga, walking, meditation, and lessening my stress.  

I radically changed my life. Changed my job, my living environment and committed to doing my own internal work with the help of some amazing experts that really understood what was going on with me emotionally. Over a period of a few years, I committed to a new lifestyle, one I now refer to as Liberated Living.  

I shifted my identity to a person that was no longer sick. No longer unhappy and no longer tired all the time.  

Instead I focused on being well, healthy and strong.  

I learned how to stop wearing the mask. I started getting clear and honest about who I truly was and how I wanted to do life on my own terms. 

The more I focused on being my true self, the less tired I felt. The more I practiced letting my yes be yes and my no be no, I felt more at ease with myself. The more I learn to be honest about my feelings and what is going on in my internal world, the healthier I get and the more secure I feel.  

I’m committed to healthy routines and habits, like meditation, thought work, exercise, eating healthy, because my very well being depends on them happening consistently.

My feeling good and well rested depends on my mind being at ease, secure and confident in who I am vs “fitting in”.  

I am no longer tired.  

Even on nights when I don’t get as many hours of sleep as I would like, I still don’t feel tired. And, when I do feel tired, it’s because I’ve exerted myself to a level that wears me out and it makes complete sense that I would feel tired. 

Most days, I feel at rest. I feel satisfied because I like who I am now. This leads the way for me to operate at my best.  

This has taken a few years to establish. But, now I understand the impact of my thoughts and my feelings on my health. And it’s made all the difference. 

I spend time getting clear on what I need, what I want and what I desire for the future. And, I work with a coach of my own to be sure I am on track for creating what I want in my life and helping me to remove the obstacles that I can’t remove on my own. 

If you feel tired all the time, there is a solution. In most cases, tired, is a symptom of a much bigger issue. Even if you have been told that tired “makes sense” because of a health concern, I welcome a conversation to explore if in fact it is a part of a bigger set of symptoms that, if relieved could set you on a whole other trajectory of living your best life in a relatively short period of time. 

You are designed for health. Designed to be at rest. Designed to feel safe and secure within who you are. And, I will teach you how to do it.  

Liberated Living 💖💫🔥

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